Before you destroy your marriage and family by leaving for another person, I want you to think about what you are really feeling.Don’t use the new relationship as a distraction to keep you from being honest with yourself and your spouse.It may not be easy, it may be painful for your spouse but it is the only way to solve problems because the “I love you but I’m not in love with you,” statement is a sign that something is wrong in the marriage.You may find that after you open up to your spouse that you are playing a role in your own unhappiness.The only way to know if the “I love you but I’m not in love with you statement,” is coming from someone who is stuck or someone who truly is no longer in love is to be willing to explore the problems in the marriage and take responsibility for your part in the problems.If, after doing this, the marriage still fails you can both move on knowing you tried to work through the problems.
When hearing such a statement it is easy to become panicked, to go on the defensive and react in a negative way.
You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can't quite figure out what that feeling is about.
Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation.
This is what happens in many relationships that fall victim to infidelity.
The spouse who strays has spent years investing time, emotion and energy in the marriage.
Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it's a big warning sign and one you should take seriously.