There’s certainly nothing wrong with having a preference: everyone has them, regardless of race, and for many – arguably most – Caucasian men, that’s all it is.
As with a lot of very charged issues like this, it can be tough to overcome the paranoia, but black women shouldn’t discount dating out based on the acts of a few (something we could all do with considering in regards to most situations, honestly).
So what are your experiences with dating white men?
(One can probably say the same thing about gay black men who date white men.) You’re rarely the first, and you probably won’t be the last. He said it probably has to do with the male emphasis on the physical.
Romance novels devote a whole subgenre to them, but how common are relationships between white men and black women in day-to-day life?
“Dating out” is something that currently is very much increasing in popularity, with celebrity marriages like Paula Patton and Robin Thicke in the tabloids, but it’s definitely worth knowing what the numbers say about where interracial couples sit in society.
According to US Census data from 2013, statistics showed that interracial marriages (that is, marriages involving white people and anyone who identified as a non-white race) made up 6.3% of all marriages in America. The hard figures may seem small or even bleak, but we shouldn’t forget that it was only 49 years ago this June that interracial marriage was even made legal.
It’s easy to feel like it was a long time ago, but almost any black woman in her thirties could ask her mother about growing up in a time where racial politics were so different that the idea of marrying a white man was not only uncommon but outright prohibited.
Saturday Night Live’s Sasheer Zamata spoke with her mother – a woman who grew up in Arkansas during the abolishment of segregation – about having to break up with a white man she was dating because her family forbid it.